I have been blogging before blog came to rape our Friendster feeds. And, long before that, I was blogging on paper. But back then, we called it a “diary”. It’s just sad that lately, I have been reading a lot of very deplorable stuff about bloggers.
If you remember well, last year, there was a huge scandal about the “Big Bad Blogger“, this famous blogger based in Luzon who wrote reviews on resorts, restos and other must-see places. It was rumored that he demanded a certain fee for a positive review and if the establishment owner refuses to pay it, he threatens to post something negative on his high traffic blog. Sigh. What can you say? This is basically new world extortion.
A few days ago, there was also this nameless story published on Inquirer.com about “Bloggers Gone Wild“. It was short but raining with accusations. Here’s a copy of the article:
There are too many stories to ignore, with some reaching urban legend status. There’s the blogger who supposedly slapped a PR person at a beauty event, the blogger who shoplifted at a store opening and the blogger who has been hawking her product samples on a popular Internet forum.
Different publicists and brands have different horror stories to tell: about bloggers who demand to be invited to events, bloggers who gatecrash, bloggers who ask for loot bags and then complain about the contents, bloggers who ask for product samples and then sell them instead of writing about them.
Hey, this can be a reality show—Bloggers Gone Wild.
I cannot fully blame the writer; I am sure there are bloggers who really do that. This is why I am speaking up. But before that, you might ask: after all those chismis embedded in the common air that we share with PR agencies, traditional media and establishments, why speak up only now? The impetus for this post is this:
See? Man, that’s sick. So, as a long time blogger, here is a set of delikadeza guidelines that I want to lay down. Of course it’s up to you if you follow this or not.
1. WAIT FOR YOUR INVITATION. So your friends got invited. Everybody is Instagramming their invites. And what’s more, you heard your favorite resto is catering the event? Don’t turn into a green-eyed monster and go out of your way just to get an invite. Don’t harass the officers, event coordinator, PR agency, or worse, the establishment itself. Honor the fact that if you weren’t invited, maybe they didn’t think you can help in their campaign (wrong niche), or simply, you weren’t at the right place and at the right time when the list was made. MOVE ON and try to forget about it. There are other events in the future. Maybe you can go watch a chick flick, clean your room or hug your mom.
2. THOU SHALT NOT GATECRASH. Okay, maybe you think that harassing the agencies won’t be worth your time. So you shrugged it off and decided to go to the event anyway. If you do this, please remember that this is also a cousin of social climbing. And, you really want to think of yourself as a social climber? That’s up to you.
3. DON’T BE A FREEBIE MUMU. There are high end events that have really nice freebies. And yes, this may also make you into a green-eyed monster. Please don’t tresspass guidelines #1 and #2 because of that. You’ll only look cheap. Also, if you attended an event and the freebies they gave weren’t the ones you expected, please have the decency to not tell people how lame it was and fail to even write about that in your blog entry. Lastly, if you missed an event and you heard there were nice freebies, like rule #1, just MOVE ON and forget about it because, come to think about it, you do not deserve it.
4. REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE REPRESENTING YOURSELF. Unlike newspaper journalists who come to events representing the newspaper/ publication that they work for, you are there to represent yourself and your blog. If you do something bad, it will reflect against you. Remember, people have mouths and news travels faster than your mestrual blood. What’s worse, what you do may also reflect bloggers and blogging in general. And if people will view bloggers in a bad light, how will you continue being a relevant and credible part of “media”? How will you continue getting invited to the fab events that you so covet? You’ll just be giving the good bloggers a very hard time saving our reputation and because of that, FUCK YOU.
5. FOLLOW RULES. There are special events that have special rules. These may be dress codes, rules laid down by the organization officers, time schedules (duh, very basic) or maybe a +1 (1 is 1 and not 4 or 45). Follow rules. I’m sure they’re not rocket science. If you suddenly have a heavy heart following such, skip the event and just spend the day reading a grammar book or a Mitch Albom novel. Maybe that will help you.
6. BETTER YOUR CONTENT. Lastly, please better your content. Remember that the better you write, the more readers you will have and you will earn a good reputation in the industry. Trust me, I have landed a lot of writing and PR gigs just because of my blog. Proofread, fact-check and do not violate intellectual property rights.
Just needed to get that out of my chest. So, dear bloggers, please shape up and don’t give blogging a bad name.
Published 8 hours after this blog was initially published:
CS, the personality from the blind item, messaged me and told me that all the accusations weren’t true and tells her side of the story here:
First of all, I WOULD LIKE TO ASK FOR AN APOLOGY SA LAHAT. I’M REALLY VERY SORRY. I NEVER HAD AN INTENTION TO THREATEN THEM, AND I INDEED DID NOT THREATEN THEM. THERE’S A MISCOMMUNICATION REGARDING OUR CONVERSATION LAST NIGHT.
This is what happened:
First, I texted a certain number of a bar to ask if there’s still an available ticket for the big event in their place. And they said yes. I asked further if I can get a press pass, and they said they cannot give me a pass anymore. I TOLD THEM THAT IT IS VERY OKAY THAT THEY CAN’T GIVE ME PASSES. I’ll pay for the entrance fee instead. I also asked if I can still buy tickets on site, and again they said yes.
I NEVER THREATENED THEM THAT DEAL THAT I’LL WRITE ABOUT THE EVENT FOR ME TO GET A PASS. AND, I NEVER ASKED FOR MULTIPLE PASSES FOR MY FRIENDS. IT’S A PURE LIE.
I am deeply hurt in some untrue claims of the author about our special event at that newly opened mall here. WE ALL KNEW THAT THOSE STUFF WE RECEIVED IN THE PRE-OPENING (especially the SM Supermarket Tour and Tokyo Tokyo Opening) WERE GIVEN TO US, AND WE DIDN’T BUY THEM.
And, I, personally didn’t look for the manager. I addressed my message in general. Whoever reads that message, it’s for him/her. That night, I really don’t have an idea kung sino yung kausap ko.
Lastly, I REALLY DON’T HAVE BAD INTENTIONS FOR THIS. Fair share is the name of the game. My intention was just to ask, NOT TO DEMAND. Nagbabakasakali lang po talaga ako. Kung wala po talaga, eh di okay lang po talaga un sa akin.
It’s a good thing that CS agreed that I publish her side here. All I can say: RESPONSIBLE JOURNALISM please. And for the readers, be more discriminating with the facts that you see/read. Kung feel mo manlibak, lalo na kung hindi ka sure, magsuklay ka nalang ng hair. Isali mo nalang din aso mo. At aso ng kapitbahay niyo. Or try mo maglearn ng bagong language tulad ng Czech o Waray para at least mabusy ka.