Before I begin what I want to say, can you reflect on the question first? Let me say it again. Are you a feminist? And I won’t accept half-baked answers such as, “I’m not a feminist but..” or “I may be a feminist but I’m not that kind that…” Just tell it to me (or yourself) straight. ARE.YOU.A.FEMINIST?
Women spent so many years suffering the stereotypes that they catch themselves avoiding or falling into, feeling like there’s something lacking in them, and believing that the only way for empowerment is through others. Or worse, through a rich, handsome and loving husband. And probably a nice kitchen. (FUCK THAT, BTW.)
Slow down sister. Maybe this is the perfect time to really ask yourself what feminism means and how it just might be the secret to you leading the life that you deserve. Yes, no more self help books for you.
I asked www.dictionary.com to define feminism for me, it says that feminism is “the doctrine advocating social, political and all other rights of women equal to those of men”. So if you get pissed at the idea that guys make more money doing the same job as you or you get irked by comments about a girl “deserving” to get raped, or if you feel like something’s wrong or lacking to you just because you don’t fit into the “ideal, successful girl” stereotype, then, my friend, you have just the right backend to be a feminist.
I know I can’t just throw socio terms at you or give you a lecture about its history but you can start by asking yourself what you really want and what, with the resources that you have, can you do to achieve it. May it be a milestone in your career, in your education or in your love life, the key here is realizing that you are doing the things that you do for yourself and not for anyone else. Self-love and self-acceptance can do a lot of things to empower you.
Next, you can start by reading a bit about feminism. There are a lot of resources available online and they’re not at all scary! Quit thinking that feminists are angsty, bra-burning lesbians who want a seat in the congress. In fact, you might not be aware of it but they’re all around you. When you’re a feminist, you know what you want, hence, you usually get the things you actually deserve and you’re not afraid to speak out. Hell, most feminists even testify to having better sex! You can contest this fact anytime but I’m proud to say that the most successful (and happiest) women I know are feminists.
I’m not asking you to be a feminist now or to read up about feminism now. I’m just easing you to the idea that feminism isn’t as radical as some people would like to portray. Good luck, sister!
And oh, belated happy women’s month. 🙂 Better delayed than pregnant, don’t you think?