I’m sure exorcism has been acknowledged by the Church decades ago but I think I don’t need it now because I seem to be possessed with the right kind of spirit–the romantic spirit.
Just this morning, I was prepping and putting on makeup for work and I just thought…it has been quite sometime since I last made an effort to go on a date. Sometimes, when I go out with my partner, I put on a nice dress or wear my hair differently but it’s just different. I remembered having good and bad first dates and how busy I was last Valentine season to actually take some time to ponder on this. Anyway, because I’m bored, I’ve come up with a neat guide on how to ace your first dates and I hope you find it useful! Here’s the precious 411:
Communicate properly. Agree and confirm on the date, time and venue of your date. Also, load up on cellular load if you don’t own a postpaid line. What’s a few pesos for clarity right?
Casually agree on a curfew or an ideal time when both of you should be calling it a night. Depending on your IDEAL post-date plans (coffee at home? heading to a party with friends? sex?) the time may vary. And, well, that’s totally up to you. 😛
Take time to dress up and look your best. Do not overdress though, just dress comfortably for the occasion and the venue. If you’re feeling uneasy because you think your skirt might be too short or your shoes are too tight, it would ruin the mood of your date. For guys, a simple polo or pique shirt over comfortable jeans and closed shoes are wonderful. For girls, a dressy blouse over well-fitting jeans and heels look great and not too trying-hard.
Girls, be gentle on the make up. Just wear enough to look natural and highlight your assets, especially if your date is day time. For both girls and guys, perfume is good but make sure it’s not too overpowering.
Leave all your gadgets at home. You must be focused on your date and nothing else. Moreover, you have to give the impression that you are 100% into the moment and not give an I’m-bored look. You have your phone, sure, but that’s it. Also, resist the urge to place your phone on your table and put it on silent mode.
Depending on how well you want to impress your date, bringing a small gift may work plus points for you. For girls, you can buy flowers or chocolates. You can also tickle her funny bone by giving her a thoughtful yet funny card or something s/he mentioned that s/he is a fan of. Nothing fancy here, okay? There’s nothing creepier than a first date that already has jewelry on the table. Eek!
Make sure you bring extra cash. Sometimes, the night just doesn’t turn out the way you planned it. No excuses, no genders exempted.
Eat a little before you head off to your date. Make sure that you don’t look like a starved hyena or an anorexic when you sit and have a meal with him/her.
No matter how many times you brushed your teeth or you gargled with mouthwash, make sure you bring mints with you. Just pick the discreet kind, like TicTacs or the ones that look like sheets of wax paper that dissolve on your mouth. Ditch the mouthwash when you’re actually out on THE date. If you try to steal a moment and gargle in the bathroom, your date will notice it and your over-consciousness will backfire! So not classy!
Ensure that you pronounce your date’s name right. Just checking. 🙂
DO.NOT.BE.LATE. Enough said. However, if by chance you really are, apologize and do your best to not keep your date waiting any further. Communicate.
If you’re the first one to arrive, stand up to greet your date as s/he approaches the table.
Smile, make eye contact and shake hands firmly. Remember not to linger too long on that eye contact and handshake okay? The borderline between friendly and freaky is merely 1.5 seconds.
The Date Proper
Resist the urge to take a bite off your date’s plate. If you really want to (because you think it would be a great conversation starter), ask permission first.
Carry yourself with confidence…but don’t overdo it. The key to this, really, is just honesty. If you know that you’re being true to your thoughts and your words, then the conversation can just flow smoothly. Shake off fears of rejection beforehand! It would just ruin the date. Appear engaging and you will be!
Steer clear of heavy issues that may spur negativity such as politics, religion or culture. A little friendly debate on who the cutest Sesame Street character is or whether or not Gorillaz has actual musical talent may be fine but if you’re already having heated arguments about Nazism and racial cleansing and impeachment technicalities, your date is fucked.
Also, avoid depressing issues such as death and calamities. Quickly divert the subject into something light whenever the conversation starts to head back there.
Speaking of issues to avoid, also refrain from talking about your exes. No bitter remarks too, okay?
Police yourself and the time that you spend in talking about yourself. Make getting to know the other your main goal in the date and be less pressured in creating the perfect impression.
Avoid substance abuse. Yes, I’m talking about cigarettes, alcohol and drugs. Especially drugs. And remember that you are responsible for your date.
Go easy on the body contact. Also, throughout the date, objectively gauge how comfortable the two of you are towards each other. Most of the time, you may have to ask permission if you want to hold her hand or put your arm around her. For girls, don’t appear to be too easy if you want to make a good impression.
Don’t push the romance. Don’t be pressured to feel a certain something or to make your date think so. Just use the time in getting to know the person like you would (get to know) a friend. Just keep it casual. Takes the edge off the actual fact that you are dating and are trying to score a lifetime partner! *wink
Let your date know that you have arrived home safely. Yes, even if he actually sent you home. If you were sent home, ask that the other update you when s/he has also arrived safely.
Thank your date and tell him/ her that you had a good time (if you really had). If the date was bad, just thank him/ her anyways and tell him/her something like casual and not too hurting like “See you around”. Do not say “Til next time” or promise anything if you don’t actually plan to fulfill it.
YOU’RE WELCOME, BIATCH! 🙂
And if you have more tips, please do not hesitate to add them through the comment box below! 🙂 Happy dating!