I’m a twenty something. The time I spent in this planet is enough to make me realize about things that I should and should not do. These things make up all those abstract stuff we used to discuss in Theology or Philosophy back in college—things such as justice, conscience, delicadeza and etiquette. While I was taking a bath this morning, I randomly realized a couple of things– lighter and more common things–which made up a little list of mistakes that this world should do without. Here it is:
You Shouldn’t Tell a Person That His/ Her Name is Wrongly Pronounced
If a person tells his name is pronounced this way, you should give enough decency to respect that and call him by that pronunciation. For example, I had this friend named “Reziel” who was usually called “Re-zyel”. When she corrects them and says it’s really “Ray-zhel” they shrug it off or correct her and said she’s wrong, or her name is “wrong grammar”. If you really want to talk about grammar, names are proper nouns and proper nouns don’t have to concede to any grammarian rule. If I name my kid KARLAQ and tell them it’s pronounced as “Karla” with a silent Q, nobody should correct me about that. WTF, right?
Ask a Raise on Your Job Interview
Okay, so you just came from a job that pays well and then now you’re unemployed. You head off for an interview and then when you asked about the salary, they told you an amount lower than what you expected. See, this is a little tricky. Because the rule is, you can negotiate for a higher salary and justify it according to your previous experience and credentials BUT you cannot negotiate for a raise, with the understanding that the first amount offered was along the grounds of okay-to-not-so-okay but you’d want a raise soon anyway. You still have to show them what you got before asking for a raise, you know.
Imagine the horror:
Applicant: If I may ask, how much is your salary offer for the position that I’m applying for?
Interviewer: Uhm, it’s a little bit over minimum. But after three months you’re definitely going to get a raise when you’re over the probationary period already.
Applicant: Wow, thank you for that. I’ll be back in three months!
Ask Permission to Court a Girl
Here’s the deal boys: if you really want to court a girl, DO SO. Don’t ask permission because A. if she doesn’t like you she’d say no anyway, or will resort to other forms of non verbal expressions which vividly paint her dislike, B. if she likes you she’d say yes so just go and court her and most of all, C. if she’s not sure and she doesn’t want to be a snob, she might say yes but if she says no to the relationship in the end, you might just accuse her of leading you on. WTF, right girls?
Make False Promises
A big DUH to this. Don’t make promises you can’t keep because it’s painful, difficult and sometimes, destructive. If you really can’t do it then say you can’t; don’t make the other person wait or hope. If you can do it, say you can. If you say you will “try”, decide the soonest. Regardless on the gravity of your promise, it’s just wrong to make someone wait. WTF?
Those are the things which I hope and pray to be eliminated from our attitude run down. Got more WTF ideas? 😛